Tuesday, 3 March 2015

First month down

I can't believe it's been a month already since me and Alex first moved in together and I didn't think I would be saying it but i've loved every moment!

That may sound a bit mean, but when you've been in a long distance relationship for 4 years it can be a bit scary being around that person all the time all of a sudden. Going from seeing each other for 2-4 days every month to seeing each other every day is a HUGE difference. But somehow it's made our relationship better and I have no explanation for it.

Being open is key

I think talking and discussing all your worries first thing really helps, as well as coming to agreements on chores and money which can cause big problems. Get it all out of the way is what i'd suggest! Things like; taking it in turns tidying, washing up, cooking. Which seems so obvious but if you don't talk about it you could end up having big fights later on about it when one of you starts to do all of it all the time. Also consider saving all receipts for food and at the end of the month add it all up and split it down the middle. Let's face it you will both be eating bit of everything you both buy so it's only fair and makes life so much easier.

Get through stress together

We haven't had the best luck in the short time we've been living together either. In the first week of moving into our house we had someone throw a rock into our window which made a lovely hole. After that we had 2 weeks of stress trying to get the police to get their butts in gear and problems with the landlord/estate agents not to mention Alex worrying about the person coming back when i'm on my own. But we went through it all and wrote up emails, researched our rights etc and when one of us was getting fed up with it the other would step in and take the load off the other. Theres only so many times you can call the council and get cut off before you say enough so you need to be ready to step in and take over when it gets too much. But it feels like we're kind of over that now and it's just an annoying thing that's happened and we've got through it together. And that's the key, get through life problems together and it will make it so much easier.

Personal space

You love being around each other but everyone needs their own little place to be alone. Mine is my office and I guess Alex's is the living room (even though he has his little man cave but he never uses it). I think its really important to have your own space where you can do your own thing; read, chill on your laptop or work. I love my office because I can decorate it how I want and Alex has no involvement in it. It's simple things like that because your bedroom is no long just yours, you can't have cute girly things everywhere because it's also a boys room so you have to compromise! 


What are the main problems you've faced living with someone? 
Let me know in the comment box below, i'd love to hear from you!

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5 comments:

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  2. I'm desperate to move in with my boyfriend - like you were I'm in an LDR, so it's a long way off still. x

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    1. Hi Chloe :)

      How long have you been long distance then? And yeah after a while you can really crave to be around each other I know! How far away do you live from each other?

      Danielle x

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  3. I have only lived in shared flat apartments and student dorms, because it's the cheapest way of living in my city. The biggest problems I've come across is the big differences in what one considers "clean". I've had a roommate who literally left dirty plates all over the floor in the kitchen & I've also had a roommate who was a compulsive cleaner - prob can say I have experienced "both extremes" ;)
    I want to move in together with my boyfriend at some point,but I have other goals, which come first.

    Your office looks really cosy, I love the random placement of the cadbury cup :D

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    1. Yeah that's so true, everyones version of 'clean' is completely different. And that sounds horrible! I think I would have gone mad if someone just left dirty plates all over the floor.

      And that's where I was working haha you always need a tea close by! :)

      Danielle x

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